Before we answer the question why not first talk about how to prepare for a successful marriage. So then, if you are considering seriously about marriage, it would be best to ask yourself, 'Am I really ready to get married?' The answer is not just your feelings about love, sex, companionship, or just because you need a child. Rather, there should be specific goals that each prospective husband or wife should think about.
Proverbs 24:27 says: “Prepare your outside work, and get everything ready in the field; then build your house.” So if you are seeking a wife consider carefully this principle. What is the point in this? In Bible times, if a man wanted to get married, He had to work first, caring for his fields, or crops. That will make him to care for and support a wife and any children who might come along?' Does this apply to our time? Yes. A man who wants to marry needs to prepare for the responsibility. As long as he is physically able, he will have to work. The Bible states that a man who does not care for the physical, emotional, and spiritual needs of his family is worse than one without faith. (1Timothy 5:8). Also a woman who decides to marry is likewise agreeing to handle a number of weighty responsibilities. People who jump into marriage without preparing to take on the responsibilities involved are really being selfish, failing to think of what they can offer a potential mate. Preparing for marriage involves meditating on the roles that God has assigned to husband and wife. The man needs to know what it means to be the head of a Christian household. This role is not a license to act as a dictator. Rather, he must imitate the manner in which Jesus exercises headship. Ephesians 5:23. Likewise, a Christian woman needs to understand the dignified role of the wife. Will she be willing to submit to “the law of her husband”? Romans 7:2. Can she be supportive and submissive when it comes to the authority of an imperfect man? If that prospect is not interesting better refrain from marrying. Further, each mate needs to be ready to care for the special needs of the other. Philippians 2:4. According to Paul when he said: “Each one of you must love his wife as himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband.” What about courtship? The most important and crucial time in preparing for a marriage is during courtship. Courtship is not merely a time to have fun but a time to be careful. It is a time for both to learn how to deal properly with each other, to see whether marriage would be a wise choice. It is also a time to exercise self-control. The temptation to become physically intimate can be very strong, remember the attraction is natural. Are you in or ready for the marriage? Ok let's go back to our previous question. As we all know getting married seems challenging; however, maintaining a marital relationship year after year must also be considered. What maintaining such a relationship involve? The key factor is a wholehearted commitment. According to Genesis 2:24 the Bible description about marriage relationship states: “A man will leave his father and his mother and he must stick to his wife and they must become one flesh".Deuteronomy 23:21; Ecclesiastes 5:4, 5. For some the idea of commitment frightens them and sees it as a burden. But if you truly love the person you intend to marry or married, commitment will not be seem as a burden. Rather, it will be viewed as a source of security. The sense of commitment implied in marriage will make a couple want to stay together through good and bad times and to be supportive of each other in whatever may come. This is why Apostle Paul wrote that true love “bears all. Today many people get married believing that you cannot find happiness or joy in life unless you get marry, they believe that marriage is essential to happiness. What is your view on marriage? I don't want to believe that because I know you can be happy as a single person. Why I say so? Because Jesus Christ was never married and he was happy and he even spoke of singleness as a gift and urged those who could to make room for it.(Matthew 19:11, 12) Apostle Paul also talked about the advantages and benefits of been single. (1 Corinthians 7:32-38) (1 Timothy 4:1-3) Singleness has much to offer those who want to serve God without distraction. Ask yourself with the above comment or statement; are there any important reasons to get married? Definitely , Yes. God's words says at Genesis 2:18 Marriage is a gift from our loving father God. So it has benefits and potential for bringing blessings. For instant, a good marriage is the best foundation for family life. Children need a stable environment in which the parents can raise them, providing them with Love, Discipline, and Guidance.(Psalm 127:3; Ephesians 6:1-4) The question is, is child-rearing the only reason for marriage? NO. Let's consider the Bible view: “Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their hard work. For if one of them falls, the other can help his partner up. But what will happen to the one who falls with no one to help him up? Moreover, if two lie down together, they will stay warm, but how can just one keep warm? And someone may overpower one alone, but two together can take a stand against him. And a threefold cord cannot quickly be torn apart.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12). Marriage, as you may know it is involve the closest of friendships and the primarily, idea here is about the value of friendship. As the Bible shows, a marriage can provide assistance, comfort, and protection. A marriage is especially strong if it is more than a bond between just two people. A twofold cord, as this verse implies, might be torn apart. But three strands woven or braided together would be much harder to tear apart. If we want to please God, the Originator of marriage it should be our primary concern of both husband and wife, their marriage like that threefold cord. God should be the center of their marriage, so that the union can benefit all the blessings from God and to be very strong. On the other hand marriage is also the only context in which sexual desires can be properly satisfied. In this setting, the sexual union is rightly viewed as a source of delight.(Proverbs 5:18) When a single person is past what the Bible calls “the bloom of youth” that's the time when a man or woman still struggle with sexual desires. Uncontrolled, such desires could lead to unclean conduct. And because of that Paul counsel for single people when he said: “If they do not have self-control, let them marry, for it is better to marry than to be inflamed with passion.” (1 Corinthians 7:9, 36; James 1:15). So whatever reasons that may motivate you or a person to get married or want to get married, it is good to be realistic. This is how Paul rightly put it for those who are married“will have tribulation in their flesh.” (1 Corinthians 7:28) Married people face challenges that single people will not face. If you choose to marry, though, how can you minimize the challenges and maximize the blessings? One way is to choose a mate wisely. http://jealouslyandtrustinarelationship.blogspot.com/2015/11/why-should-we-get-married.html